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My father-in-law is 97. His own dad stuck around till 105.
In my husband’s side of the family, longevity appears to be a thing, and I pray this extends to my husband and our kids.
On my mama’s side of the family, my grandma (maami) passed on at 87, and my grandpa (papami) at 89. Again, I pray this longevity extends to my mum, my siblings and me.

I have lost some precious ones way too early; my dad (aged 68) and my brother-in-law (aged 52). There is framily gone too soon like Kemi Songonuga, aunty Dupe Sasore (aged 71) and broda Gbenga Ola (aged 58); and friends who I wish were still here like Dolapo Onojobi, Buki Kolade and Detola Ande.

My very first real experience of death was when I was aged 5 or 6. I had a cheeky best friend named Roli. In my minds eye, I still have vivid memories of us running around school, and so many moments of laughter.
I turn up in school one day and understand she was murdered at home the night before by armed bandits whilst robbing their house. 35 years+ later, Nigeria is probably more unsafe today, than it was then.

I was talking to a friend recently about the budget for another friend’s mum’s funeral. Alarmed at the cost, I exclaimed, “nobody should die, and we should all live forever!”.
I am neither God, some other deity nor a genie, and in spite of my exclamation, the world order is unlikely to change anytime soon, which means death will come calling for each of us at some point.

Our worldly possession will mean nothing to us once we are gone, but what about those we leave behind? We should let our life’s work count for something, and pass it on as we will.

If you own any asset at all (real estate, shares, money….), then yes, you should write a will.
It is of uttermost importance that you write a will, if you have a child/ren.
Heaven forbid your children aged under 16 are left as orphans, they would need custodians, so do give that some thought!
Don’t “test” the relationship between your children by creating an opportunity for them to go to war over your assets. Indeed, what a shame to hear of the children of the legal luminary put up a public show through the courts as they fought for his inheritance, falsely assuming he had died intestate. Take a minute to write a will so you don’t leave a right mess after you’re gone.

I am no expert in this field, and whilst there are many DIY will kits available, there are other options. There are some intuitive will writing services out there, but whatever option you decide to go with, get educated about the essence of writing one (not least the taxation burden), and do write one.

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Thanks, very apt information and advice, The existence of a will makes your wishes known: Without a valid Will, the distribution of your assets will be according to the rules of intestacy – not according to your wishes. It will also reduce stress and heartache for loved ones.

Yes thanks! We need to overcome the mentality that writing a will means you are wishing death upon yourself. It is just being wise; your loved ones will thank you for it!

A few lessons i have learnt from the passing of a loved one.
1. Have a will
2. Make sure your children have a close relationship with your siblings and parents – their uncles, aunties, grandparents.
3. Have another custodian (not your spouse/ your child’s other parent), someone trusted that you are sure will equally protect your interest over your children.
4. Share your important information and your children’s information with this custodian, information like : Birth certificate, Social insurance number, your bank info, your investment info

It’s refreshing and quite educating reading the piece on death. It’s one of the certainties of life. We pray for longevity and a good life. The aspect of Will is very very helpful and one that a lot of people gloss over, including yours truly. Thanks for the advice

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